A Hillview Prep graduate, Cindy, is going to college this year! Exciting times, but she is also a bit apprehensive. We asked her what is she worried about. She said: her room mate!!
Room mate? We asked. Cindy said, yes. We asked her why is that a big concern? She said that the room mate gives her the creeps. She does not like her at all. We asked her how did she meet her room mate. And Cindy said it was via roomsync.com.
This app is a great idea, and we asked Cindy how did she pick her room mate. She said it was the room mate who picked her! Cindy said she does not like her room mate's personality and other things. We asked her why didn't she just say 'No'??
And that is the problem. Too many people are afraid to say 'no'. They think saying 'no' is hurting other people. In fact, nothing can be further than the truth. A 'no' protects you. It gives you time to consider your decision. A hurried 'yes' is the worst decision you can make.
Since you will be living with someone for at least a year in your freshman year, you should take the time to get to know people. Roomsync is great, but you should take time to get to know the person. Do a Skype call. See the other person in action. If possible, even go meet the other student and her family.
Technology can speed up finding things and making connections. However, it does not necessarily help you make a good decision. Don't be seduced by technology.
What will Cindy do? We don't know, but we have some tips for you to find a good room mate.
Here are five important subjects to mention when speaking to your potential roommate for the first time.
1. Study habits
Does your potential roommate like to study in his or her room? If so, does she needs silence or does she listen to blasting music, or is always on her smartphone or iPad? Would that be distracting to you?
Tip: Put your study habits in your profile and talk about it with your potential roommate.
Would your roommate get a lot of visitors? Is he very gregarious? If so, prepare to expect visitors. Would that upset you. Or, if your roommate is an introvert, she may not like visitors at all. Would that be a problem to you, if you have many friends?
Tip: Ask your potential roommate if he or she likes a lot of company or just a few friends. How large is his family? Would they visit often? Etc.
3. Sleeping habits
Are you a night owl? What about your roommate? Does he wake up early and go for a run? If you are light sleeper, that will be upsetting to you. Also, sleep deprivation is a big issue at college, and your grades and general well being will suffer if you do not sleep enough.
Tip: Find out the sleeping habits of your roommate. This is very important because you and your roommate both need sleep to perform well in the demanding environment of college.
4. Common interests
You’re going to be living with this person for at least a year. Are you the kind of person who is curious about new things? Or would you rather have a roommate who shares your interests. If the latter, make sure you pick someone who shares some of your interests. It could be anything, from watching moves to playing sports to just chatting about goals and interests.
Tip: It would be great if you can find someone with common interests. However, sometimes it is nice to have a roommate with different interests, if you are the curious time. Interview your potential roommate and put your interests on your profile.
Most people don't think of this, but this is a big deal. What are your values? Are you very career orientated or family oriented, or both? Do you have a passion for something specific or are you interested in many different things? Are you religious or not? Most students have not formed strong values by then, but some have. Filter students who share your values and you may end up making life-long friends.
Tip: Focus on your values and you will save a lot of time and energy. You won't be distracted by other things and also could be a magnet for people with similar values.